Of Living and Loving for 29 Years and Counting



image Having been married to each other for almost 3 decades wasn’t at all that easy. Like any other “normal” married couple, we also had our shares of “stormy weather.” But with God’s grace and guidance we had stood by each other through thick and thin, and together we had endured the tests of time..  29 years ago, on July 28, l985 at Our Lady of Lourdes Mangato Church, we vowed, “to love each other… for better or for worst, till death do us part….”

And today, as we celebrate our 29th wedding anniversary, we renew our vows as we pray:

Dear Heavenly Father, we thank you for the graces and blessings you have given us during the past 29 years of marriage. We celebrate and recall the day when we are joined together as partners in life and we thank you for being with us on our daily journey together through life’s ups and downs.

We fervently ask you to increase our sense of belonging to each other, just as Jesus says, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one.” (Matthew 19:5,6 NIV)

We thank you that you have freely given us Your presence, strength, help and hope. We pray that we will continue to grow in our ability to work together for the good of each other, for the good of our family and for the good of the world. Fill us with love, forgiveness, patience and trust.

Guide us with the light of your word where it says, “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” (I Corinthians 13:4-8)

Increase our sense of companionship and friendship. Grant us the ability to laugh at our mistakes and the means to share the simple pleasures of life together. Enable us to speak the truth in love. Help us to be good listeners. And grant us wisdom and a spirit of cooperation as we make your good plans together on the tough issues and challenges we face.

We also ask you Lord to surround us  with good friends and neighbors. Protect our home. Care for our family. Provide for our needs. Guard our health. And may we enjoy many other anniversaries together. In the name of Christ, in union with the Holy Spirit, one God forever and ever, we pray…..AMEN.

May I share this  HOMILY that I have researched  honoring long-married couples just like many of us…May it inspire, enlighten and strengthen us more as we continue our matrimonial journey…


‘A living witness that God is love’

Archbishop Wenski’s homily at annual Mass honoring long-married couples

Wednesday, February 15, 2012
Archbishop Thomas Wenski – The Archdiocese of Miami

Archbishop Thomas Wenski’s homily at the annual Mass celebrating married love, and couples marking 25, 50 and more years of marriage. The Mass took place Feb. 12 at St. Mary Cathedral with more than 100 couples and their families in attendance.

The human race, male and female, were created in the image and likeness of this God who is love. Understanding that we are made in the image and likeness of God can help us to understand why God put into the humanity of man and woman the vocation – and thus the capacity and the responsibility – of love and communion.

imageToday, we honor you because your response to that vocation, with the help of God’s grace, has endured through the trials and tests of time. We honor all those celebrating significant milestones in your years of married life, especially those celebrating their golden or silver anniversaries.

Your vocation to a common life lived in the Lord – that is, within the holy bonds of sacramental marriage – is a witness to the fact that God does love his people.

Your coming together “in one flesh” in a relationship of mutual and exclusive fidelity “until death, do you part” is an image and symbol of the new and eternal covenant that unites God and his people.

As a sacrament, matrimony is a living and outward sign of Christ’s own love for his bride, the Church. Your unconditional love one for another, the mutual and exclusive fidelity of your love for one another, your love’s openness to life expressed through its fruits – your children and your good works – reflect the love of Christ himself.

He loves us to the end with a love that is unconditional, faithful and, through the gifts of his Spirit poured into our lives, fruitful. Yes, by your love for each other – in sickness and in health, for better or for worse – you give a living witness that Deus Caritas Est, God is Love.

It is a witness sorely needed today when so many people – and society itself –are confused about the meaning of marriage and family. Today, more than ever, we need your witness about the true “facts of life”, about the ultimate meaning and truth of conjugal life.

The many years you have shared together – and certainly no one can pretend that they were always easy or that there will be no difficult days ahead – but those many years have given you experience – but more than experience, they have given you wisdom. You must share that wisdom if young people today are to discover the beauty of the vocation to love.

As Pope Benedict XVI pointed out in his first encyclical, Deus Caritas Est, the word “love” today is frequently used and misused. Most commonly, it represents what the ancient Greeks called “Eros”; that is, the erotic love between a man and a woman. But the Church, from her earliest days, proposed a new vision of self-sacrificial love expressed in the word “agape”.

The natural human love between a man and a woman is a beautiful and sacred thing but it needs discipline and maturity, it needs “agape” lest it lose its true dignity and purpose.

Our modern society certainly has exalted “Eros” but at the same time it has also debased the human body and in doing so has impoverished Eros. Eros, reduced to just “sex”, has become a commodity – a mere “thing” to be bought and sold. The lack of modesty, our complacency with the “soft porn” that has invaded our popular culture, is not a sign of our society’s “being at ease” with the body – as opposed to an older generation’s supposed prudish uptightness. Rather, it is a sign of our society’s contempt for the human body.

Men and women today consider their bodies and their sexuality are purely material – somehow outside of themselves as if they were “extra baggage or an external shell” and thus to be able to be used and exploited at will.

Today, we see that many, including the President of the United States, believe that somehow fertility is a disease and pregnancy is pathology. And so, our government in its zeal to classify contraception, sterilization and chemical abortion as “preventive health care” is willing to ride rough shod over the religious freedom of Catholics and other Americans.

As Catholics, we do not believe that we are Platonic “ghosts in machines” or Cartesian “substantive minds”. We believe that we are “ensouled bodies” – we have one human nature, made up of a unity of body and soul.

Our bodies – and our differentiation into male and female – are not extraneous to our selves, to our very beings; rather our body and our sexuality are part of our identity as persons. Just as we speak of a sacrament as an outward or visible sign of an inner or spiritual reality, our bodies sacramentally display our souls.

As the Fathers of the Second Vatican Council reminded us, man can only realize himself through the sincere gift of himself. The “Theology of the Body” developed by Pope John Paul II speaks of “nuptial meaning” of the body, for the human body, constituted male or female, reveals man and woman’s call to become a gift for one another, a gift fully realized in their “one flesh” union.

The body also has a “generative meaning” that (God willing) brings a “third” into the world through their communion. In this way, marriage constitutes a “primordial sacrament” understood as a sign that truly communicates the mystery of God’s Trinitarian life and love to husband and wife – and through them to their children, and through the family to the whole world.

In this way, we can speak of the language of the body. Our body language can communicate the deepest sentiments of the human person created by God for love and communion. However, to be authentic, this body language must reflect the truth about human nature as created by God.

Only manifestations of self-giving that correspond to that truth will tend to that communion of persons to which humanity is directed. For this reason, adultery and cohabitation without marriage, one night stands and so called same-sex unions, while certainly described by some as “erotic”, are in themselves incompatible to our true vocation to love.

These expressions of a fraudulent “body language” are not worthy of the dignity of man created male and female in the image and likeness of God. It is a fraudulent body language that “communicates” only the counterfeit of true love.

Eros properly understood, however, does symbolize God’s passionate love for his people – and this Eros that attracts the opposite sexes to one another “leads a man and a woman to marriage, to a bond that is exclusive and therefore monogamous as well as permanent”.

This is exactly what Jesus affirms, when quoting the Book of Genesis, he says: “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, no human being must separate.” (Matt 19:5-6)

And of course, a distorted notion of Eros is not a just a product of our modern times. Although man’s vocation is to love, our capacity for love was wounded since that original sin of Adam and Eve. Because of that wound, we find the responsibilities of love very challenging, if not impossible. Even the apostles, when Jesus affirmed the indissolubility of marriage, complained: “If that is the case of a man with his wife, it is better not to marry.” (Matt 19:10)

As Pope Benedict urges in his encyclical, a correct understanding of “Eros” needs to be rediscovered if today’s men and women are to respond faithfully to their vocation to love. A balance, between the ecstasy of “Eros” and the unselfish love of agape, needs to be reestablished.

The key to regaining such a balance, the Holy Father tells us, is found in a personal relationship with God and an understanding of the sacrificial love of Jesus Christ.

We are in need of grace to be healed of the wounds of sin: only God’s sanctifying grace can overcome the hardness of heart that led Moses to permit divorce. Only through the redemptive power of Christ’s paschal sacrifice was marriage restored according to God’s plan from the beginning and thus was raised by Christ himself to the dignity of a sacrament.

The hopes that people place in marriage are increasingly fragile in our age of easy divorce. Too many people, especially among our young, are cynical about the possibilities of entering into a joyful marriage that will endure until death. The hopes that people place in marriage are capable of being fulfilled only by acceptance of the Gospel.

For this reason we gather today at this “agape”, this celebration of the self-sacrificial love of Jesus Christ which is the Holy Mass. Here, we come wounded but seeking wholeness from the Physician of souls and bodies, Jesus Christ. And we are confident in the power of his grace – the grace that restores us to the spiritual health that makes reconciliation with him and with each other possible as is represented in today’s Gospel with Jesus curing the leper.

We ask you to once again renew the commitment that you made to each other so long ago, a commitment that has been tested and refined over the years, and a commitment that is now blessed and enriched by the wisdom of age. And we thank you for this witness.



Let There Be Peace


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Beyond shadow of a doubt, we now live in constant state of unease an anxiety, feeling like there is more to do and more to worry about. We stress about our to-do lists, even though no matter how many items pop-up, more will take their place. Isn’t that something familiar to you?

We feel like we can’t relax and be happy until we have achieved some goals, but when we get what we want, we just want more and more. There seems to be no satisfaction in the blessings that we are receiving from God, or have we forgotten to count our blessings?

In this chaotic world where we live, I am most certain that what most people look for, but are unsure how to obtain, is PEACE.

Here are some guidelines that may mean the difference  between peace and turmoil:


To lead a peaceful life we need to redirect our perspective to God’s perspective. It is only when we follow God’s path and God’s perspective that we also obtain God’s peace, and this is  through meditating on the Scriptures and becoming a living witness  of the Word.

Talking with His disciples, Jesus said, “Peace I leave you; my peace I give you. I do not give as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.” John 14:27


When your life is filled with bitterness, not much peace can fill your heart.

Pray, “Lord Jesus, I have sinned, I need you to fix the problem of my heart, I beg for your forgiveness and I fervently ask for your peace.”

Let us remember that Christianity is more than preventive psychiatry; it is a gift that brings eternal life and its by-product is peace.


In a world that honors outward achievement, tells people they will never have enough, and encourages an impossibly busy life, peace and contentment can feel like a distant dream.

But here is the secret: there can never be inward peace without being satisfied with what the Lord is giving us. Think about it this way: As parents, we only give what is best for our children and when and  our children are not contended with what we are providing them, and they do not even show their gratitude, will that make us happy? This is similar to our Father, who provides us countless blessings.

Let us always be grateful and be contended with what life is giving us and we will find inner peace.


Your old nature demands exoneration. Stop playing the “blame game” with your spouse, son, daughter, boss or even yourself. It produces anger, irritation and turmoil.

As you exonerate your old self, and you follow the Word of God through your actions, you become an effective witness for Christ in a lost world. A “witness” is someone who attest to a fact, so in order to be an effective witness, you must have a first-hand knowledge of Him.

John the Apostle speaks of this in 1 John 1:1-3, when he says, “That… which we have seen with our eyes, which we have looked at, and our hand have touched-this we proclaim concerning the Word of Life.”

Today, we who have experienced a new life in Christ give an account of His love and forgiveness, both verbally and in the way we live our lives. This is “witnessing”.

Have peace, be an effective living witness of Christ.


Life is too short to live with broken relationships. You’ll be amazed how different you feel when you say, “I’d like to be your friend. Let’s settle that issue that have divided us.” In short, hold out the olive branch.


So then, maybe instead of wringing our hands about  apalling evil acts in the world that creates turmoil and chaos, we ought to look within our own hearts. At our anger. Lust. Greed. Pride. Laziness. Indifference. And even hypocrisy.

We certainly cannot stop chaos in this world but we can find God’s peace in our own hearts. We can’t eradicate the evil in this world but we surely have a choice, but for us Christians we only have one:  to do good and be good.


Just Think Of The Sparrows


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Dear Brothers and Sisters in Christ,

As I celebrate my birthday on the 20th of July, I had wanted a bird for a gift. But instead, God gave me thisimage “imaginary sparrow”, so that I could share it with everyone.

When I read my final draft of this article, I cried…because I soon realized that not only did God answer all the questions I’d been asking Him for sometime  but He also guided me to find out the answers, myself.

Yes, I am a self-confessed “sparrow”.

Please take time to read and maybe if you’ll think of the sparrows, you will say a li’l prayer for me as well..

Thank you and may God bless us all!




It amazes me that the sparrows are mentioned in the Bible numerous times.. And how the sparrows predominately find themselves in the language of the Bible, amazes me even more. What is so special about them? Just for kicks, I made a research about this particular kind of bird.

Here’s what I discovered, out of the more than 9,000 varieties of birds in the world, none is more common than the sparrow. The sparrows are simply small and pretty insignificant birds. This gave away the answer, it is their being insignificant that made them significant to the Lord.

It is no wonder then that Jesus use them as an object lesson that we may not soar like the eagles or strut like the peacocks but like the sparrows, we are just as important to our Heavenly Father.

From my perspective, I could see a bit of the “sparrow” in everyone of us. The “sparrow” within us  manifests in different forms. There are times when we feel so worthless and  feels like nobody loves us and no one even cares anymore if we are still alive. Also those times  when it’s like the world is against us. Those times when we ask, “Where are you God?” amidst our feelings of worthlessness and hopelessness.  Those are the times that we become a “sparrow-on-the-whole”.

Such is not always the case however, the “sparrow” within us may also manifests in bits and pieces in  our lives, like  when we are successful in our career but flops in our marriage or other similar cases.  In other words, there are some areas in our lives that may have drawn us to feel insignificant, or at least we had some experiences of “sparrow moments”- that time when we felt so small, unloved and unnoticed.

Have we not all gone through this at some point in our lives? Then, everyone of us is a sparrow. So, as followers of Christ, we are all “Christian-sparrows” and therefore no one is excluded from the love of God. In short, we are ALL important to the Lord.

From my research, I have also found that sparrows have different species- american tree sparrow, house sparrow, henslow’s sparrow, to name a few, each  have their own distinct color and characterstics. Similarly, as we have diversified traits, culture and total personality make-up, we deal with the “sparrow” within us differently. Like the bird sparrow,  there are also different types of  “Christian-sparrows”.



This could happen because of chronic adverse circumstances that can be  due to disease, bad home or job situation or anything that may affect our life on a major scale. This could result to a feeling of worthlessness and despair. “Sparrow moments” huh?

Here’s what may have happened..We have all heard of the word “erosion”, right? When something erodes, it is either eaten away or worn out. Erosion is a process whereby something which was once a thing of beauty or a strong pillar of some type has deteriorated.

We have all seen or heard about a landslide  or mountain erosion that causes damage to its surroundings. Well, this is parallel to our Christian walk, all of a sudden, we just stop and become dormant. As we go in years, the same can occur in each of us.


We may have “eroded” in our Christian walk but unlike soil erosion which maybe irreparable we can always start a new walk with the Lord Jesus.

How? If we are going to understand the world and its circumstances, then we must be ceaseless students of the Bible. Keep in mind that the Bible comes from the mind of God and it is the ONLY source of the true perspective of God.

And so, if we are to regain our equilibrium and continue our walk with God, then it is necessary to return to the Word of God.


Sometimes, we go through circumstances that make us feel overlooked and brushed aside. We see the success of others and wonder when it’s our turn. Others receives accolades while we are quietly doing our own thing, and instead of being recognized we even get criticisms for it.

Sometimes, God places us in quiet seasons, seasons hidden and tucked away. In those times, it can be easy to feel cheated and gipped.


I think the most important thing we can do with our lives is quietly go with God’s purposes for us. But in the meantime, we can have  some “sparrow moments”, we feel small and insignificant. We wonder why she got that job, or he got those accolades. or why the family is living luxuriously when we could barely make both ends meet.

Here’s the truth of the matter. God sees us and He is just preparing us for the right time until we are ready to get that promotion that He intends just for us. YES…we, too will have that promotion…in HIS time.

We may want something and we may want it rightaway…BUT God says..”WAIT, just wait! I have bigger plans for you..this is just not  the right time.”

In these quiet waiting seasons, when we feel stuck and left behind, God does His great work of refining us. He is teaching us lessons, dealing out pearls of wisdom, but only if our hands are open to receiving them.

Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”


Amidst the multiple problems that our world faces today- unemployment, food shortages, energy crisis, spiking cost of basic commodities, religious wars add to these the burgeoning global population,  it’s inevitable that many are gripped with a quiet despair, uncertain of their future, wondering even if they could survive till their next paycheck. They flit from one task to another, doing the best they can.

At other times, their life is smooth sailing but  only for a time, then they find themselves sinking once more…This is the reality of what a majority of the population is going through during this modern times..but God is so good that when we were born, He gifted us with “survival instincts” to help us cope and survive in difficult situations. And so, we don’t easily give up, we continue to fight and  we become resilient. Unfortunately however, there are times when we have given our best shot, have done everything we can and yet we fail.


At times like these, learn to put into God’s hands what you cannot change. Learning more about Him will give you confidence that He’s able to take care of your storms in life. Giving up and not being able to overcome your difficulties on your own  doesn’t always mean you’re weak, it means you have strong  faith that God will see you through like the sparrows.

This is the time  to remind yourself too that self-reliance maybe an admirable trait in our society, but when you have given it all and still you haven’t or never succeeded, then you have to accept the simple truth that there are things that only God can do.

The psalmist says, “For in the day of trouble, He will keep me safe in His dwelling, He will hide me in the shelter of His tabernacle and set me high upon a rock.”


This is my favorite type.

In the homily during a mass I attended, the priest related a touching story about an old woman who never fails to attend the early morning mass. “And everyday”, said the priest, “the woman would get the broom and sweep the floor after the mass”. Then one day, the priest could no longer resist asking the woman, “how much are you paid for it?” “Nothing Father”, the woman replied. “Since I do not have money for the alms, I serve the Lord in my own little way. This is my humble love-offering to Him”.

Such an admirable tiny sparrow with a BIG heart for Jesus. Can we be like this woman? Like her, every Christian can serve the Lord even in little things coupled with love.

imageSo, to which type do you belong?

How wonderful it is when Jesus spoke of sparrows to let us understand that He notices even them and that we are of far greater value.

Simply put, the next time you feel shunned by the outside world, neglected, small and unimportant…My friend, have faith! Just think of the sparrows.






Rewrite Your Song


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A singer/composer was interviewed on TV and was asked where he gets his inspiration. He replied, “from my own life story and the lives of others that spark my interest.” Before the show ended, he obliged to render a song that goes….”According to you, I’m stupid.. I’m useless… I can’t do anything right…..According to you….”

While I listened, I was wondering whose life story that was. What I am sure of is that, NOBODY would ever want to be labelled as stupid or useless. I am even more certain that whoever owns that story or something similar to it would want a BETTER life. A life that deserves a BIT of respect, dignity and honor.

I believe everyone’s life makes a good SONG. And if you want your song to be even BETTER, it is NOT too late to rewrite the lyrics and bring the melody attuned to GOD’s teachings of righteousness.

As Bill Graham said, “Our days are numbered. One of the primary goals in our lives should be to prepare for our last day. The legacy we leave is not just in our possessions, but in the quality of our lives. What preparations should we be making now? The greatest waste in all of our Earth, which cannot be recycled or reclaimed, is our waste of the time that God has given us each day”.

So, COMPOSE the SONG of your LIFE to be so beautiful, that even when you are long gone…when the music is played, you will always be remembered.



Gleamy Stairways


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Trials and tribulations come in different forms, sizes, kinds and descriptions. They form part of human existence. Unfortunately, most often than not, they sneak at the backdoor as unexpected and unwelcome surprises that usually take us off guard. How we handle these difficult situations is what psychologists call as “coping with crisis”. I view them as “Gleamy Stairways”.

Metaphoric and literal, stairways make us stop and ponder. In life, we spend a lot of mounting and alighting in steps both figuratively and literally. We go up, we go down. Sometimes we trip, falter or fall. Also on some occasions, our life spiral in every which way. But as believers, we never stop climbing. We NEVER give up because the LORD is with us.

NONE are too good to be spared from trials, and none are too bad to be excluded from GOD’s help when trials come.


When our trials and tribulations come one after the other, we become overwhelmed. This leads us to a whirlpool of mistakes and our coping mechanisms fail. Such may bring us to a state of depression.

Loneliness creeps in from time to time but when it lingers on (we call it chronic in medical terms) and it interferes with all areas of our life including work and social relationships, it can be a serious problem.

As a registered nurse, I have learned that depression is more than just sadness. People with depression experience a lack of interest or pleasure in daily activities, significant weight loss or gain, insomnia or excessive sleeping, lack of energy, inability to concentrate and WORST- recurrent thoughts of death or suicide. Doctors also found that there is a chemical imbalance in the brain due to the lack of the “feel-good hormone” known as dopamine.

Incidentally, according to Global Statistics conducted by WHO, there are 350 million people worldwide who are suffering from depression. In the U.S., 1 out of 10 Americans suffer from depression and more than 3.4% of people with major depression commits suicide.

And there is this New Global Report from WHO: “Depression predominant cause of illness and disability among adolescents”. It says further, “many serious diseases in adulthood have their roots in adolescence”.

Everyone is vulnerable to depression including the rich and the famous like the celebrities and other prominent people. How many have turned to drugs and have committed suicide because of extreme loneliness?

Would you believe? Even in good times, an average of 16 million new cases of depression occur in the US each year. Apparently, depression has taken a serious toll around the world leading me to ask, “What is really going on here?”  So, allow me to share my thoughts on this. First, let me start with the causes of depression.


  • DEPRESSION may be attributed to familial disposition. Yes, it is not only acquired but may be inherited. A person whose family member suffered from depression will have a greater chance of acquiring it than someone who has none.
  • It can also be traced back to an unresolved conflict/s or crisis as in persons who were abused during chiildhood.
  • A result of refusing to accept failures as when one cannot come up to his/her lofty ambitions or the high expectations of parents or loved ones.
  • loss of a loved one, a job, failed relationships or  unsuccessful businesses resulting to financial disaster.
  • It may be physiologic- deficiency of some chemicals in the brain as mentioned earlier.

Just as happiness is subjective and so is loneliness. In short, there are as many causes of depression as you can think of that may make one extremely unhappy.


In the medical field, depression is considered as a “mental illness” Hence, sufferers bear the stigma of being told they are “mentally ill”.

As a “soul-centered” nurse, however, I believe depression is NOT primarily another word for unhappiness, nor is it “mental illness”. It is rather in many instances a response to a “lack of spiritual life”.

I strongly believe that my advocacy in nurturing and healing the spirit as an integral part in the holistic healing of the body IS what makes me  a “soul-centered” nurse.

So to continue, one thing that makes our life difficult sometimes is that we’re out of God’s physical presence. God didn’t say it would be easy but He promised, He would be there when we needed Him. Even though it feels like it sometimes, we must always remember that we are not alone in our journey.

While there is no substitute for seeking medical help and taking medications, it is MOST important to make our own personal spiritual assessment to determine the level of our spirituality for the ULTIMATE HEALING FORCE in depression or in any other forms of afflictions for that matter  is a GOD-centered life.

To attain  a GOD-CENTERED LIFE you must:


Every person is driven by something. It could be the desire for money, fame, pleasure or success. Whatever it is, something drives a person’s life. Do you know what drives your life?

It is hard to move forward when you don’t know where you’re headed and why. GOD’s plan gives us the basic answers to life’s basic questions like “What’s your purpose in this life?”, and “What happens when I die?”. You can find all the answers in the Scriptures. Until you bring God into the picture you will never fully understand what life is all about.

Knowing our purpose in life give us hope and help us find peace and joy.


VIEW life in a positive way.

The power of positive thinking for the believer is rooted in what we believe about God and His word. In addition, meditating on God’s word on a regular basis equips a believer to live righteously because the Bible clearly leads us in the direction of positive thinking in our Christian walk.

As believers, we have the power of God to control our thinking: choose only those that are positive and eliminate all  the negative ones  as they do not come from God.

Thereafter, the fruit of godliness springs up within our soul.


“One day at a time-this is enough. Do not look back and grieve over the past., for it is gone. Live in the present, and make it so beautiful that it will be worth remembering”.-Ida Scott Taylor

One cause of depression is that you feel overloaded and you try so hard to deal with so much at once. Things are much more manageable when you do it one at a time. When you try to handle everything at once, you often don’t know what to do first and you end up doing nothing at all. And this can even aggravate your depression.

Embrace today! It is a gift, live one day at a time and live it to the fullest.


Set goals that are attainable and realistic.

Ambitions that are too high demand equal amounts of stress and pressure such that when you fail  it can be so unbearable. In fact, according to new research, while  lofty ambition can help you achieve a very prestigious education and corporate success, these may not make you happier in the long run. It says, “Ambition could make you rich but not happy”.

Here is the result of a study led by Timothy Judge, professor of Management at the University of Notre Dame’s Mendoza College of Business:

The results of “On the value of aiming high”: The causes and consequences of ambition surprised him, he said,  There was a stronger than expected correlation of ambition, educational and career success. But those who led successful life in this regard were not, despite what you might expect, marked happier or longer lived. And those whose achievements failed to match their ambitions lived less happily and died earlier”

The takeaway? For one thing, “if you have high aspirations, you better make good on them”, said Judge.


Live each day as if it was the last day of your life. Express your love to those dear to you. Show appreciation even in little things. Sometimes, a mere “thank you” brings joy to one’s heart. It opens up the giver’s spirit to share more to people who are grateful.


This is the most crucial of all. When our physical bodies are injured, it may heal by itself because of our natural defense system called antibodies but when we are deeply hurt by someone’s words or actions, it may take a very long time for us to heal or we may NEVER heal at all. Consequently, the hurts are pent-up deep within that may lead to depression.

Forgiveness is an antidote for bitterness, wrath, anger and depression. When we forgive someone, we do not exonerate their behavior, we give ourselves the permission to let go and put down a great weight we have been carrying.

The sacred act of forgiveness  free us from the bondage  of undesirable thoughts and feelings and gives us inner peace, joy and happiness.


To laugh makes us fully human.

When my hubby and I were down with flu for several days, I did a little browsing for some funny anecdotes. Indeed, it made our spirits high. The spontaneity of humor reflects the way God created man,. Truly, it is both physically and emotionally beneficial to us.

Life as hard as it is can  even be harder if do not take time to laugh and be happy. Laughter brings family together and can also keep a tense situation from ending in bitter words and hard feelings.

Every believer can and should rejoice, because our best days are always ahead of us. Moreover, everyone has the right to laugh and be happy.


Prayer is for anyone and everyone.

NOTHING is more powerful than PRAYER. It is so powerful that it can do many things, even the IMPOSSIBLE. Fervent and sincere prayers come from the heart and not from the lips. It is very simple and it can be done anywhere at anytime.

My mind speaks of worship and prayer ALL THE TIME,  in everything that I do even when I am doing the dishes or taking a shower. It helps me put my mind back on track when it wanders and it also wards off unnecessary and undesirable thoughts.

Bouts of unhappiness can be alleviated, prayer can lift you into a new lightness of heart, joy, peace, happiness and serenity.

If you are plagued with resentment and bitterness regarding a person or situation, prayer can bring a new understanding that will fill you with a new and amazing love.

Moreover, when you are fearful, prayer can transform you into a person of great courage.

PRAYER IS THE ANSWER for depression or  any other kind of sufferings because prayer is power, It can change all things that need changing in your life, yourself, or  condition of any kind. When you pray, you have placed yourself in the stream of blessings that is available to you and to everyone for you have  fervently asked in FAITH.


Trials can either make or break us. We can turn to be  better or bitter after our storms of life. As children of God, we view tests as   another step to the stairways of spiritual maturity that gives us life’s treasured lessons.

Finally, for depression and other afflictions-GOD is the ULTIMATE HEALER and amidst trials, HE is the LIGHT to our STAIRWAYS making our way up easier to negotiate. Thus, with the LORD, our life’s STAIRWAYS are always GLEAMY.

1 Corinthians 10:13

1No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. wGod is faithful, and xhe will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it.



What Delights the Lord


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GOD created men to please Him and not the other way around. This being so, it is man’s goal to discover what delights the Lord. Fortunately, the Bible gives us a clear example of a life that pleases God in the person of NOAH.

During the time of Noah, the entire world was full of all kinds of pleasure. Evil and wickedness were everywhere that God couldn’t find anyone on earth that delights Him. God became so disgusted with the human race that He considered wiping it out. But there was this one man who was pleasing to God’s eyes and his name was Noah. It was because of Noah that You and I are alive today.

From his life we learn the acts of worship that delights the Lord. Subsequently,  God will also be delighted if we follow the love, faith and wisdom  that Noah’s life had exemplified.

Let us then delight the Lord by following these NOAH’s ACTS OF WORSHIP:


Noah loved God more than anything else in the world even when no one else did.

The Bible tells us, “for his entire life, Noah consistently followed God’s will and enjoyed close relationship with Him’. Nothing is more important than loving God above all things. Jesus called it the greatest commandment, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul and with all your mind.” This is the first and greatest commandment.

Can we think of anything else more important than God’s love for us? He loves us so much that He is longing for us to love Him back. He says, “I don’t want your sacrifices–I want your love, I don’t want your offerings–I want you to know me”.

In His words, it is clear that He wants us to have fellowship with Him so that we may know Him and be intimate with Him.  His arms are forever outstretched waiting for us to embrace  and pour out our love for Him just as He longs to embrace us.

In today’s chaotic world, it is easy to forget to love God. Ironically, it is even easier to do things that displeases God because nowadays, more and more people are becoming attached to worldly things and this have now channeled our love to a different direction.

REFLECT: How can I love God supremely?


Noah trusted God completely even when it didn’t make sense.

Consider this scenario: One day, God comes to Noah and say’ “I’m disappointed in human beings. In the entire world, no one but you thinks about me. But Noah when I look at you, I start smiling. I’m pleased with your life. So, I’m going to flood the world and start over with you and your family.. I want you to build a giant ship that will save you and your animals.”

Of course, there were problems that may have caused Noah to doubt. First, the land was totally dry and Noah had never seen rain. Second, Noah lived hundreds of miles from the nearest ocean. So, even if he could learn to build a ship, how could water get into it? Third, the problem with catching and caring the animals was just a tall order.. But Noah did NOT complain or made excuses. He trusted God completely and that delighted God.

Trusting God completely means surrendering everything to the Lord, it means having FAITH that He knows what is best for our life.

In reality, in the dark hours of the night, it is easy to begin to lose faith especially when we are faced with difficult situations. It is during these times that we need to pray the hardest. As Harold J. Sala once said, “When it is hardest to pray, that’s when you need to pray the hardest, it does not always change the circumstances but it changes the hearts of those who pray”. Moreover, fight doubt by taking a Bible and marking the many promises of God.

It took Noah 120 years to build the ark. Imagine how he faced many discouraging days, when there were no sign of rain year after year. Imagine how he was ruthlessly criticized as “a crazy man who thinks God speaks to Him”. Yet Noah kept on trusting God.

Just as parents are pleased when children trust their love and wisdom, our Faith delights God. the Bible says, “Without Faith, it is impossible to please God’.

REFLECT: In what areas of your life do you need to trust God completely?


Noah obeyed  and built the giant ship just as God prescribed it giving full attention to logistics and details. Noah did everything that God instructed. him to do. For God didn’t say, “build any boat you’d like, Noah”.

He gave very detailed instructions as to size, shape, materials of the ark as well as the different number of animals to be brought on board. Noah obeyed God  completely and wholeheartedly and he followed exactly in the way  and time God wanted it be done. Obeying God wholeheartedly means obeying Him without any reservation or hesitation. We do not procrastinate and say, “we’ll think about it”. Parents understand that partial obedience is disobedience. Sometimes, we do not understand the will of God until we have followed what He has directed us to do. Understanding can wait but obedience can’t.

Often, we offer God partial obedience. We want to choose only those that are easy, inexpensive, reasonable and common. I will attend mass but won’t forgive the one who hurt me. I am going to read the Bible but can’t go out to help my neighbor.  Partial obedience is disobedience.  Wholehearted obedience is done joyfully and gladly. The Bible says, “obey Him gladly”. This is the attitude of David: “just tell me what to do and I’ll do it Lord. As long as I live I will wholeheartedly obey”.

There are areas in our life  where we feel we may have failed like career, relationships, finances that sometimes we even feel that God does not care about us. We may not be aware then that God is directing us to a better path. It will only be after we have followed Him that we realize His plan was far better than what we have planned for our life. So then, trust the will of the Father and obey him wholeheartedly. In addition, it is very important that we obey Him because it shows that we love Him. As Jesus said, “if you love me, you will obey my commandments’. 

REFLECT: Had you been offering God partial or wholehearted obedience?


GOD is delighted when we express our adoration and gratitude to Him.

Noah’s first act after surviving the Flood was to express his THANKS to God by offering a sacrifice. The Bible says, “Then Noah built an altar to the Lord…and sacrificed burnt offerings in it”.

Because of Jesus’ sacrifice, we don’t offer animal sacrifices as Noah did. Instead, we are told to offer God the “sacrifice of PRAISE” and “the sacrifice of THANKSGIVING”.

When we offer praise and thanksgiving to God, we delight the Lord and our hearts are filled with JOY.

The Book of Psalms says, “The righteous are glad and rejoice in His presence, they are happy and they shout for joy”.

REFLECT: Do you continually thank and praise the Lord for what He is doing for you?


AFTER the Flood, God told Noah, “Be fruitful and increase in number and fill the earth…Everything that lives and moves will be food for you…Just as I gave you the green plants, I now give you everything”.

GOD simply means, “Go on with your life as human, Noah”

We may think that the only time that God is pleased with us is when we do spiritual activities like reading the Bible, attending church, praying or sharing our faith. But God is just as concerned about the minute details of our life. He is always watching us in everything that we do—typing on the computer, doing the laundry, shopping at the mall, walking the dog or whatever work we do. God enjoys watching us and is delighted to see us perform those human tasks that He designed us for.

The Bible tells us, “The steps of the godly are directed by the Lord, He delights in every detail of their lives’.

God has gifted us with different skills and talents that we may use them for His enjoyment and pleasure. Some are blessed with music and science while others excel in athletics and sports. Whatever gifts we have, God is delighted when we use them to the best of our abilities and if we dedicate these talents to glorify His name.

EVEN AS we live in the 21st century, God is looking for Noah amongst us. Let us THEN  follow Noah’s ACTS OF WORSHIP. And God  will surely be delighted if he finds NOT JUST ONE but several NOAHs in our time.


Laughternicillin-The BEST Antibiotic EVER!



Those tiny influenza viruses may have been jumping with joy to have found a potential new haven. that just as when we brought my brother home after 2 days of hospital confinement, my hubby and I were their next habitat.

(COUGH! COUGH!…there goes our duet)

And so, while getting enough bedrest and medication, I did a little browsing for some funny stories that may somehow lift our spirits up. After all they say, “laughternicillin is the best antibiotic” or… was I who said that???




A little silver-haired lady calls her neighbor and says, “Please come over here and help me. I have a killer jigsaw puzzle, and I can’t figure out how to get started.”

Her neighbor asks, “What is it supposed to be when it’s finished?”

The little silver haired lady says, “According to the picture on the box, it’s a rooster.”

Her neighbor decides to go over and help with the puzzle. She lets him in and shows him where she has the puzzle spread all over the table.

He studies the pieces for a moment, then looks at the box, then turns to her and says, “First of all, no matter what we do, we’re not going to be able to assemble these pieces into anything resembling a rooster.”

He takes her hand and says, “Secondly, I want you to relax. Let’s have a nice cup of tea, and then,” he said with a deep sigh …………


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“Let’s put all the Corn Flakes back in the box!”



I’m sure EVEN Adam’s rib is tickled with this one ha ha ha!

                    ADAM’S RIB

In Sunday School,they were teaching how God created everything,including human beings. Little Johnny seemed especially intent when they told him how Eve was created out of one of Adam’s ribs. Later in the week,his mother noticed him lying down as though he were ill,and said,’Johnny what is the matter?’Little Johnny responded,’I have a pain in my side. I think I’m going to have a wife.’



                    TWO LITTLE BOYS

A couple had two little boys, ages 8 and 10, who were excessively mischievous. The two were always getting into trouble and their parents could be assured that if any mischief occurred in their town their two young sons were in some way involved.

The parents were at their wits end as to what to do about their sons’ behavior. The mother had heard that a clergyman in town had been successful in disciplining children in the past, so she asked her husband if he thought they should send the boys to speak with the clergyman.

The husband said, ‘We might as well. We need to do something before I really lose my temper!’ The clergyman agreed to speak with the boys, but asked to see them individually. The 8 year old went to meet with him first. The clergyman sat the boy down and asked him sternly,’Where is God?’

The boy made no response, so the clergyman repeated the question in an even sterner tone, ‘Where is God?’ Again the boy made no attempt to answer. So the clergyman raised his voice even more and shook his finger in the boy’s face, ‘WHERE IS GOD?’

At that the boy bolted from the room and ran directly home, slamming himself in the closet. His older brother followed him into the closet and asked what had happened. The younger brother replied, ‘We are in BIG trouble this time. God is missing and they think we did it.’



SURE, MY hubby and I felt much, much better AFTER alternate COUGHS and LAUGHS and SNEEZES..that we almost did not realize it was getting late …OUR 2 dogs were also busy barking (just as we are) …that I thought..”who would dare intrude into our premises with 4 barking dogs and humans?’ …LOL!

I WILL CONTINUE to post a series of tasteful and wholesome funny anecdotes because I believe we all need to find time and reasons to laugh….

TILL THEN my friends…



The BIG “C”


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This may sound scary and dreadful  as to most, the BIG “C” means such life-threatening disease as cancer. But this BIG “C” is the “BIG CHANGE” and unlike cancer it is the door to hope and life.

Most people are silently longing to transform their life in one way or another but they don’t seem to know where and how to start. Interestingly, a traveler once asked a man in China, “Have you ever heard the Gospel?” “No”, he replied “But I have seen it. There is a man in our village who was the terror in our neighborhood. He had a violent temper. He was an opium smoker, a criminal and a dangerous man. But the Gospel has made him gentle and good. He no longer smokes opium. No, I have never heard the Gospel but I have seen it and it is very good”.

Indeed, the Gospel is so powerful that it can dramatically change the lives of those who follow it. Since the Scriptures provide us to all the good works,  they give all the guidance we need. Therefore, God’s word is the BEST START  as it is the ultimate source of guidance for self-help and motivation for self-improvement.

Timothy 3:16-17

“All Scripture is “God-breathed” and is useful for teaching, rebuking, connecting and training in righteousness, so that the servant of God maybe thoroughly equipped for every good work”.


God is all-good and all-knowing that He gave us choices in this world  as vast as the Universe, and it is entirely up to us  which decisions or choices we make. The Bible tells us that God created man in His “image and likeness”. And so, when He created men, He gave them the same wonderful faculty-the gift of free will.

Free will is a universal gift from God. However, God did not create us with equal emotional strength to deal with it. One reason may be attributed to the fact that there is a growing amount of evidence  that traces a biological link between  our Emotional Quotient (EQ) and our parents. Emotional Quotient as defined by psychologists as a measurement of a person’s ability to monitor his or her emotions to cope with pressures and demands.

For this reason, some of us inherit a disposition from our parents that makes us more susceptible to destructive behavior while others are more discerning.

Subsequently, while many with seemingly  high EQ have successfully  transformed their lives, there are others who are still struggling to change. On the other hand, there are also some pessimists who think that they cannot help being themselves, that they cannot reform their ways at all. Their reason? Some say, “they were brought up in the slums”,  while others say “they haven’t felt the love of a parent”. and so, they are not to be blamed for their behavior and conduct.

Of course, this is not true. Our actions, be it right or wrong are our personal responsibility. As the Bible says:

2 Corinthians 5:10

“For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ, so that each one may receive what is due for what he has done in the body, whether good or evil”.

God is so caring that along with free will, He also gave us the ability to think, weigh matters, make decisions and know right from wrong. We were not made like mindless robots having no will of their own nor were we created to act on instinct as were the animals. Instead, our marvelous brain was designed to work in harmony with our freedom of choice.

GOD’S WORD says, “Behave like free men, and never use your freedom as an excuse for wickedness”- 1 Peter 2:16


Life can be hard and some things in life which we want to change can seem difficult or even insurmountable. Moreover, change doesn’t happen overnight, it takes time and a lot of patience. A person also needs a strong will and determination coupled with deep faith in himself and in the Lord.

We will also encounter some problems along the way that sometimes may discourage us that we may even feel like giving up, but this isn’t unusual. These are the times when our strength is being tested and these are the times too, when God is purifying us and preparing us for the overhaul.


Sometimes we become impatient especially when we are not getting what we are expecting at ourimage specified time frame.  We should remember then that change is not an event with an exact start and stop point. Our “metamorphosis” like the butterfly is also a process.

What we sometimes fail to realize is this, “each step we make, even if it’s relatively small such as making the resolution to change, is still a step in the right direction, bringing us to our ultimate goal”. And when each one of us will make small changes in our lives, when added together will result in a BIG CHANGE in our life and into the world.

It is also important to recognize that even if we take a few steps back or stumble, it is not the end of the world and we can always  stand up and continue  what we have started.

In fact, research have found  that change rarely occurs in straight forward, linear sequence, and when people falter, they usually don’t fall all the way back to their starting point.

On the contrary, if viewed and used correctly, the missteps can even serve as learning opportunities and instead of stumbling blocks, they serve as stepping stones helping us become better prepared to take the next step.

To conclude, to change is a matter of choice. Anyone, even the most sinful can make a BIG “C”  for all our sins are equal in the eyes of God as He says, “for all   have sinned and  fall short of the glory of God” – Mark 3:23 Don’t ever let yourself think, “I can’t help the way I am” because you can with God’s help, let the Scriptures be your starting point. As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back to start a new beginning but anyone can start today and make a new ending”. And when one day, your life will flash before your eyes, wouldn’t you like it to be worth watching?



Give Us Today


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imageHave you ever prayed like this? “Dear God, Heavenly Father, please help me to get through this day!”

I always  ask the Lord to help me to cope just for the day. Forget tomorrow, next week or next month. While the Bible makes wonderful promises for tomorrow, I do believe that the greater focus is on God’s help, guidance and strength for today.

Remember Jesus taught us to pray, “Give us this day, our daily bread…”

He also told us, “Do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself, each day has enough trouble of its own”-Matthew 6:34

The GOOD NEWS is God’s grace is overflowing and is always sufficient for today.

Matthew 6:25-34

Do Not Worry

25 “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? 26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life[a]?

28 “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. 29 Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. 30 If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? 31 So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ 32 For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them. 33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. 34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.


LIFE is a GIFT, life is SHORT. Live a GOOD life, and LIVE in the PRESENT moment. Do NOT dwell in the past or WORRY about the future. Instead, BE THANKFUL for each new day, for it gives us a new HOPE and a new BEGINNING.

So then, LET’S NOT forget to GIVE THANKS to the LORD for the blessing of each new day.

May we ALWAYS live our lives to the GLORY of GOD, the ALMIGHTY FATHER in union with the HOLY SPIRIT, one GOD forever and ever, so HELP us GOD….AMEN.




Understanding the Link between Conscience and Spirituality


How can a father brutally kill his 10-year old son and even uploads the image of his bloodied body as his profile picture on facebook? And how can a pregnant woman be stoned to death for marrying the man she loves and not the man that her family wishes? And here’s another,  “a student, brought about by his twisted idea about women went on killing rampage leaving 6 innocent people dead”. These horrible news makes me wonder if some people are born without a conscience.

Aside from these terrible news, we also read about debates on moral issues such as same-sex marriages and death penalties. Who would have imagined 100, 50 or even 20 years ago that there could be a debate about the definition of marriage? These are just  some proofs that we now live in a time of ever-changing moral standards. The main reason for this is the “majority rules” or the dictates of society.

It would be safe to say then that the individual’s judgment, as to what contributes most to his wellbeing and the welfare of society  has now become   the basis of our moral standards. Needless to say,  these are now the moral standards that we  have “programmed” in our conscience  and thus has become our justification of what is right and wrong.

In short, our self-interest and the interest of the society, we may call the dictates of social conscience has now become our determinants of  right and wrong. This being the case, our conscience is only as good as to our knowledge of what is good and bad to us, and  may not be always aligned with what is good and evil in the eyes of God.


When our conscience is not aligned with our Christian spirituality then there could be a missing link. Undoubtedly, the Christian conscience will continually face challenges but our social conscience  will never change. The reason being that, our human frailties sometimes dominates us that we fall  easily into  the prey of the devil.  However, no amount of temptation can pin us down if we have a Christian conscience, and we can only build a Christian conscience if we build a strong character.

In other words, CHARACTER is the powerful LINK between conscience and spirituality.  Generally, character is shaped and formed by our parents, elders, teachers and friends who have influenced us as godly role-models. As the home is where our character is  first developed, parents  therefore, play a very important role as such.

Children when they are born, they come into the world as persons who are not yet the being that GOD wants them to be. They have not yet, obviously reached the level of development or maturity, that by nature, are capable of achieving. Hence, they  need love, nourishment, security and education. As parents, we are called by God to meet these needs. In so doing, we are guiding our children to a life based on Christian moral principles and shaping  their Christian conscience in the process.

Unfortunately, not all individuals were lucky to be born with parents to guide  and have their needs met. However, if our spirituality, i.e. relationship with the Lord is STRONG, and we have a deep understanding of how God wants us to live, then we can still build a Christian conscience.

Trust the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make straight your paths-Proverbs 3:5-6

Our character is strengthened every time we participate in spiritual enhancement :  reading the Bible, attending Sunday masses or worship, memorizing a verse or pray. The Holy Spirit uses all these input to renew our conscience so that it can evaluate every opportunity, thought, word, deed and action.

Moreover, if we program our conscience with God’s teachings, we will be more disposed to respond to remorse when we sin, as opposed to those who never puts spiritual value into their conscience.

So then, as our rapport with God deepens,  our conscience tunes in with the moral code of the Holy Spirit-a code reflecting  the moral and ethical standards of God and thereby, serves as our guidance  to do the will of God.

The bottom line is, the CONSCIENCE is a universal gift from God but it only works well if we have  a strong spiritual life, because it takes a STRONG SPIRITUALITY to build a GOOD CHARACTER, and a good character to build  a CHRISTIAN CONSCIENCE. 

Finally, for as long as we live, our spirituality will always be tested through our conscience and so, the challenge for every Christian therefore, is to MAINTAIN a Christian conscience and stay GOOD EVEN if others are not, can not and will not….for in the end, it is not what we think or what our culture allow but what GOD SAYS. HE has the final word in determining right and wrong.










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